Stop separating the outside of your house from the inside of your house, try to think of your home as all one place. Look at your outdoor area, look at your yard and take inventory of what you have naturally because space. What has mother nature already provided for you? Hopefully you possess some kind of natural elements that can be the focal point of your new outdoor family room such as a large tree, a hedgerow, an excellent slope, or a beautiful view. There may be other qualities you might start with, such as a lovely angle of morning sun, maybe a nice brick wall on a single side creating a microclimate, or even an interesting urban view of some kind, though in urban locations, your yard can be quite a barren rectangle, with nothing in it but a majority of dirt and weeds.