Stop separating the outside in your home from the inside of your house, try to think of your home as all one place. Look at your outdoor area, look at your yard and take inventory products you have naturally in this space. What has mother nature already provided for you? Hopefully you will have some kind of natural elements that can be the focal point of your new outdoor family room such as a large tree, a hedgerow, a nice slope, or a beautiful view. In urban locations, your yard could be a barren rectangle, with nothing in it but some weeds and dirt, but there may be other qualities you could potentially start with, such as a lovely angle of morning sun, maybe a nice brick wall on one side creating a microclimate, or even an interesting urban view of some kind.