Stop separating the outside of your house from the inside of your house, try to think of your house as all one place. Look at your outdoor space, look at your yard and take inventory of what you have naturally in the space. What has mother nature already provided for you? Hopefully you might have some kind of natural elements that can be the focal point within your new outdoor family area such as a large tree, a hedgerow, a great slope, or a beautiful view. In urban locations, your yard could be a barren rectangle, with nothing inside but some weeds and dirt, but there can be other qualities you could start with, such as a lovely angle of morning sun, maybe a nice brick wall using one side creating a microclimate, or even an interesting urban view of some kind.