Stop separating the outside in your home from the inside of your house, try to think of your house as all one place. Look at your outdoor space, look at your yard and take inventory of what you have naturally for the reason that space. What has mother nature already provided for you? Hopefully you might have some kind of natural elements that can be the focal point of your respective new outdoor family room such as a large tree, a hedgerow, a great slope, or a beautiful view. There may be other qualities you might start with, such as a lovely angle of morning sun, maybe a nice brick wall using one side creating a microclimate, or even an interesting urban view of some kind, though in urban locations, your yard can be quite a barren rectangle, with nothing in it however, many dirt and weeds.