Stop separating the outside of your property from the inside of your house, try to think of your residence as all one place. Look at your outdoor area, look at your yard and take inventory of the things you have naturally in the space. What has mother nature already provided for you? Hopefully you have some kind of natural elements that can be the focal point of your respective new outdoor family room such as a large tree, a hedgerow, an excellent slope, or a beautiful view. In urban locations, your yard could be a barren rectangle, with nothing within it but some weeds and dirt, but there can be other qualities you could start with, such as a lovely angle of morning sun, maybe a nice brick wall on a single side creating a microclimate, or even an interesting urban view of some kind.